Just messing around?

[sobiteme]

So I'm a girl and my best friend is a boy. A while ago I was round his house and we were talking about how far we'd got with the opposite sex and penis size.. and somehow I ended up seeing his penis. This happened again a week or so later. We carried on acting as usual, and then a few weeks ago I went round his house quite late and we were just sitting talking for ages. And somehow we ended up 'experimenting'. We didn't have penitrive sex or anything that far but we both performed manual sex on each other. There was no emotions and almost the whole time we were just talking about other stuff and it was kind of awkward.
Afterwards we both agreed to tell no one and that it was just messing around so we could explore with no emotions. We haven't really mentioned it since and that's that?
So was it just messing around? I don't really regret it but do you think it's bad to experiment with friends?
Recently we haven't been so close and I'm not sure if it was related to that or not..

[TomBeasley]

I think that the lack of closeness could just be a bit of awkwardness based on you both not really knowing what to feel after what happened. You both need to talk about it and be sure that you both know what exactly it all meant. If it was just experimentation, then you have to make sure that he knows that as well and isn't having any delusions.

If even you aren't sure, then it is definitely something you need to talk about. It could have meant something to one of you even if it didn't to the other.

I know you said you'd spoken about it after, but you're clearly still wondering so you need to discuss it further. It seems clear that he isn't going to take the initiative and mention it, so that's down to you.

[sobiteme]

I'm pretty much it was 100% experimental and even if for some reason it wasn't for him he'd probably deny it =/
I know talking to him seems like the most obvious idea but our relationship is a bit weird and I think it would probably be massively awkward to bring it up and could end up the wrong way. A lot of people we know suggest that we're sexually interested in each other and I wouldn't like him to get the wrong idea..

[TomBeasley]

Apr 10, 2010 18:35:26 GMT sobiteme said:

I'm pretty much it was 100% experimental and even if for some reason it wasn't for him he'd probably deny it =/
I know talking to him seems like the most obvious idea but our relationship is a bit weird and I think it would probably be massively awkward to bring it up and could end up the wrong way. A lot of people we know suggest that we're sexually interested in each other and I wouldn't like him to get the wrong idea..

If you don't talk to him, it is going to remain awkward. The best idea is to make your feelings about it clear to him.