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Post by dan95 on Jan 13, 2010 15:26:56 GMT
i saw this guy in my englsh class (which im top off btw) and he smilled and it felt good and tingly. am i gay?
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Post by Shakti on Jan 13, 2010 18:24:10 GMT
Most people have an attraction to someone of the same sex at some point in their life times, it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. It could just have been a reaction to the smile, and nothing to do with sexuality at all. I mean, it's normal to feel good when someone else makes an effort to be nice to you in some way, assuming he smiled at you, that is.
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Post by dan95 on Jan 13, 2010 18:39:44 GMT
so you were atracted to women?
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Post by Shakti on Jan 13, 2010 19:14:13 GMT
Nope. I said that most people have an attraction to someone of the same sex at some point in their life times, not that I had been one of them.  |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 13, 2010 19:52:06 GMT
tehn how do you no?
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Post by Oli on Jan 13, 2010 21:18:36 GMT
There have been many investigations into this before. This, and mancrushing. Liiiike, i know a few straight guys who mancrush on Justin Timberlake  |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 13, 2010 23:32:11 GMT
but what if ths guy wants me. should i kiss him?
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Post by Shakti on Jan 14, 2010 12:23:38 GMT
You seem to be assuming a lot at the moment. You don't know if he is gay or not, and even if he is, that doesn't automatically mean he "wants" you. If you're this worried, it might be worth talking to him about it?
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Post by Oli on Jan 14, 2010 12:30:26 GMT
You seem to be assuming a lot at the moment. You don't know if he is gay or not, and even if he is, that doesn't automatically mean he "wants" you. If you're this worried, it might be worth talking to him about it? I'm not sure talking to this guy would work. If i'm honest, it sounds to me as if it was just a friendly smile from a hot guy, nothing more and nothing less. Unless you can be like 99% sure he wants you, don't make yourself a target by talking to him. It'd be awwwwkward if you read the signals wrong. It's your decision, if he does want to kiss you, use your own common sense to deal with what is happening in that situation, and do not over react. |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 14, 2010 12:38:51 GMT
urgh im so confused.
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 14, 2010 20:15:53 GMT
You're 14 years old right? Nothing is certain about your sexuality right now. Hormones are all over the place and you may well experience all sorts of desires. If you are usually attracted to girls, I wouldn't rush to act on such a minor impulse.
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Post by dan95 on Jan 15, 2010 21:03:11 GMT
im usualy un-nonattracted to anyone
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 18, 2010 16:46:56 GMT
im usualy un-nonattracted to anyone You might have to explain that further... |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 18, 2010 23:29:23 GMT
wats so hard to undersand about it?
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Post by Shakti on Jan 19, 2010 21:49:28 GMT
It's hard to understand because being "nonattracted" would imply not being attracted to anyone, but putting "un" in front of it is confusing because it then seems like the opposite, that you /are/ attracted to people. I'm not even too sure what I wrote made sense, but that's how I read it. If I've gotten that wrong, feel free to explain what you were trying to say.
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Post by Oli on Jan 19, 2010 21:52:17 GMT
Attracted = you like girls
Nonattracted (Not a real word, but for this case) = You don't like girls
Un-nonattracted (Again, not a real word) = You do like girls, usually.
Am i right?
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Post by dan95 on Jan 19, 2010 23:21:49 GMT
i dont like any1
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 20, 2010 18:56:30 GMT
That could just be a case of not being around people that you consider attractive. |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 20, 2010 22:27:18 GMT
are u gay tom?
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 21, 2010 21:23:46 GMT
No, I'm not. However, I like to think I am more accepting and open-minded towards gay people than most straight guys my age. |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 22, 2010 16:45:37 GMT
does that mean that youd try it?
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 22, 2010 22:28:42 GMT
It means that I am not in the slightest bit homophobic and whilst being straight, do not think being gay is in any way wrong.
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Post by dan95 on Jan 23, 2010 13:39:46 GMT
but how do u know your strait?
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Post by TomBeasley on Jan 23, 2010 21:42:11 GMT
but how do u know your strait? At the moment, I am perfectly sure that I am attracted to girls and not guys. I cannot be sure that this will not change though as I am at the stage of life where my hormones are all over the shop. |
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Post by dan95 on Jan 24, 2010 20:23:18 GMT
so u migt be gay than?
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