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Post by Braindead on Aug 12, 2009 21:50:21 GMT
Despite the title sounding quite sexual, what I mean is how fast should relationships go? I've recently got into, what I suspect is, my first serious relationship. I really like her and everything and don't want to seem like a sex maniac or anything. Are there signs to take heed of, a certain time span or just "go for it and if you're lucky...."?
I'm also rubbish at knowing what girls are thinking so, it doesn't help...
Advice please!
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Post by Mikey on Aug 13, 2009 12:18:30 GMT
So you're saying you're up for a shag, but you don't want to scare her off by flashing your dick in the middle of the shopping centre instead of waiting to get her home in her own good time?
Is she the kind of girl that'll make a move when she's ready? If you think so just sit back, relax and leave your flies in an easily unzippable position.
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Post by Braindead on Aug 13, 2009 17:51:29 GMT
I wouldn't say I'm "up for a shag". I mean, I am, but I'm not looking for it. I just mean basic stuff. I'll remember to leave my flies in an unzippable position as well, but should I just wait until it's obvious she wouldn't mind me kissing her without reaching for mace...  |
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Post by Mikey on Aug 16, 2009 13:14:11 GMT
I see what you mean, that's fair enough, I'm sure she'll appreciate your sense of respect for her. Really though, if you let it go too long waiting for an obvious signal, you'll just come across as dull. Be out there, but after a few days out, I would say dates, but if you're not getting even a kiss after dinner and a movie then you might as well give up. I expect you'll take her out, go into town, just enjoy yourself a bit. If at the end of the third you're still dry you need to make a move. Otherwise you're just flaccid.
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Post by TomBeasley on Aug 26, 2009 17:40:14 GMT
There is no set speed for how fast relationships go. It depends entirely on the people. I'm afraid that it is more of a case of trying to judge the person and then "trying your luck" so to speak as there aren't any concrete signs to watch out for.
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Post by Braindead on Sept 5, 2009 20:47:33 GMT
Thanks guys. ^__^ Kinda worked out. (yaaaaaaaaaaaay)
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Post by TomBeasley on Sept 6, 2009 20:34:31 GMT
Nice to see that things worked out well for you.  |
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Post by whiteshadow on Sept 8, 2009 8:44:06 GMT
What? see now that is silly
In a relationship you don't LOOK for a kiss, snog or shag or anything of the sort
Thats not what a relationship is about.
You should be looking for spending a good time together, having a laugh, being comfortable with each other, and being there for each other no matter what happens between you.
There is no "speed" in a relationship, that will take care of it yourself. If you're so into speeding it along for more sexual reasons, surely that will show you that you aren't looking for love in the relationship, or for a compatible partner. You're looking to fulfil your sexual needs. Is that really what you're looking for? If not, then don't worry about the speed thing and let it go with whatever comes whenever, that is the most comfortable and reassuring way for both of you.
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Post by Braindead on Sept 8, 2009 19:29:49 GMT
Yeah, I realised. Bear in mind I've never done this before. Now it's going well, and I'm not so ridiculously nervous, I find I can just sit with her in silence and it's just as good...ish. So I'm no longer looking for the whole sex bit, it's just nice to be with her.
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Post by TomBeasley on Sept 10, 2009 18:49:41 GMT
Yeah, I realised. Bear in mind I've never done this before. Now it's going well, and I'm not so ridiculously nervous, I find I can just sit with her in silence and it's just as good...ish. So I'm no longer looking for the whole sex bit, it's just nice to be with her. That's the way it should be. You are so lucky (trust me xP) to have found someone that you can be with and enjoy the company of in such an emotional way. |
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