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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 6, 2008 19:20:24 GMT
omg..
I have never felt this useless in my life =/
A REALLY special friend of mine has been going through a hard time, and I tried to help but everything I said just seemed to make things worse.
I tried to make sense of the situation first, by summing it all up and then giving the overall conclusion of the situation. Which apparently was wrong. So I tried breaking it down into smaller parts and trying to explain which was happening. I was wrong there aswell. I tried to make things seem ok, I was wrong there. I tried to explain that no matter what they did, they couldn't change it, I was wrong there. I was wrong on all angles of the situation, and every accusation I made was wrong.
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Post by Root Admin on Dec 6, 2008 19:32:10 GMT
This may seem bad and it may well be bad. However, you have to remember that everyone makes mistakes no matter how awesome they are and with the amount of help you dish out, logic dictated that you would make a mistake at some point. All you can really do is apologise for what you have said and see if there is anything you can still do to help. Other than that, it seems to be pretty much out of your control mate.  |
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 6, 2008 20:01:44 GMT
It is bad =/
well, WAS bad. I just didn't understand. I honestly thought I could help, and I honestly thought that if I could somehow make them see the situation through my eyes rather then their own, maybe it would make some more sense. Unfortunately I was sadly mistaken =/
I did apologize for what I did, and things did become really awkward =(
They have gone for the night and wether I hope to see them tomorrow =/
I use they and them to protect the identity =]
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Post by Root Admin on Dec 6, 2008 20:18:20 GMT
First time for everything, I suppose.  Seriously, it is pretty much out of your control now. You will just have to talk to him and hope he sees that you made a mistake. |
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 7, 2008 9:59:00 GMT
it's a her lol
I spoke to her, and all seems to be fine now, I wouldn't play too many cards at the moment incase things arn't and it goes slightly off. I'm very much worried about what could happen in the near future =/ I don't know, it's a complicated situation. I've been in smaller versions of this before, and she manages to just somehow recover from everything over night and it's like o.O Where as I'm still worried about it all and I dare bring it back up incase something goes terribly wrong. Confusing. Thats the word for it.
Edit: ok I'm referring to my girlfriend.
Gave it the day, I don't think things are going to well. I asked her to come see me today, I don't think it's going to well =/. Tbh, it looked like she was trying to find every excuse to not come and see me, that was the image that was being portrayed to me. Yet she says that she wants to come see me. I guess I'm stuck in a confused spot and I don't know what to do, if I say one thing it's wrong if I say another thing it's hurtful. I don't want to spark and arguement and I don't want to hurt anyone, I just want to know whats up. I know if I ask her she'll hide it, I tell her not to hide it but she hides the fact she's hiding it aswell. I don't know what to do anymore =/ I love her I really do, I just don't understand. Maybe I'm tired or maybe I'm just not looking carefully or maybe I'm just silly. It just seems.. I don't know, not like how it was before. I want things back to normal, I want us to be ok. Thats all fine for me, but when I try and get what she wants, I can't.. I don't know what she wants.
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Post by Root Admin on Dec 7, 2008 14:16:28 GMT
Perhaps she just needs some time to recover. Just stay strong and wait for her to realise that you do love her and that she loves you as well. When that happens, you will be fine again.
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 7, 2008 15:33:31 GMT
yeah perhaps, as long as things turn out ok its fine with me =] if we go in together and pull out together then Im happy =]
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