Everyone hates me

[Anonymous]

Almost everyone at my school hates me for almost no apparent reason. It makes me feel crap about myself and I don't know what to do. About 2-3 of my friends seem to actually like me. People seem to think it's okay to hit me and say things they wouldn't say to anyone else to me.

[Root Admin]

If they are hating you for no reason, then I would say that they're not worth being friends with anyway. Stick with those 2/3 people that are worth being close to as they are the people that will be able to help you through it all.

[damselindistress]

I was picked on like you were in school and it's B.S. People are always standing up for the rights of minorities and homosexuals and lots of different persecuted groups, but high/middle schoolers? HAH. No one seems to care that they persecute the heck out of each other and that people's lives are ruined over things that happened to them in high school. EVERYONE should be stood up for. Humans just love to have elitist groups that they use to make people not in the elitist group feel bad about themselves.

There's nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong with THEM for buying in to that. Be proud of the fact that you aren't that shallow and evil, since you have to be somewhat heartless to treat others that cruelly.

[iiPod]

Although everyone (adults) say you should tell someone and that if you tell you will be out of the woods, you're not. Sometimes, you just have to keep your head down, put your hands in your pockets and walk away. However, back to my first point although all the advice points to telling adults, the first people you should be telling are: yourself and your 2/3 friends. They may help.

Remember, although it is a saying beaten into the heads of everyone, there is always a way out, no matter how obscure it seems, or how unlikely it is that it will work there is always some way to get out.

I now speak from personal experience, there will be at least one stage in your life when everyone around you is jeering and saying you are getting angry. At this point you are telling yourself that you should be angry, but you're not. In fact, you are speaking in a very calm and considerate voice. It is then that you will stand up for yourself.

When you do stand up for yourself and ask them to stop, you will most likely shame them into stopping. To rise above their bullying is something that takes so much more courage than anything else in the world. Sometimes you have to find a small desperate part of you that is so fed up with what has been going on, youth en need to tell them exactly how it feels.

But, most importantly, remember: Not everyone hates you. Even if it seems that everyone around you, close to you hates you. There will always be hundreds of people who like you, but may not know you.

[Eilidh]

Mar 30, 2009 18:31:56 GMT iiPod said:

Although everyone (adults) say you should tell someone and that if you tell you will be out of the woods, you're not. Sometimes, you just have to keep your head down, put your hands in your pockets and walk away. However, back to my first point although all the advice points to telling adults, the first people you should be telling are: yourself and your 2/3 friends. They may help.

Hmm, I'm not going for the whole "head down" thing. Seven times out of ten a bully will ignore you if you walk past with your head held high and acting as if you have every right to be there. Because you do. Also, stand your ground. Don't let yourself be trodden into the ground by people who aren't worth their weight in Skittles, let them know that you don't give two clicks what they think. I've been in this situation, and to a certain extent I still am, but I think that being confident has made it a whole lot easier.

[damselindistress]

Apr 2, 2009 16:00:09 GMT Eilidh said:

Mar 30, 2009 18:31:56 GMT iiPod said:

Although everyone (adults) say you should tell someone and that if you tell you will be out of the woods, you're not. Sometimes, you just have to keep your head down, put your hands in your pockets and walk away. However, back to my first point although all the advice points to telling adults, the first people you should be telling are: yourself and your 2/3 friends. They may help.

Hmm, I'm not going for the whole "head down" thing. Seven times out of ten a bully will ignore you if you walk past with your head held high and acting as if you have every right to be there. Because you do. Also, stand your ground. Don't let yourself be trodden into the ground by people who aren't worth their weight in Skittles, let them know that you don't give two clicks what they think. I've been in this situation, and to a certain extent I still am, but I think that being confident has made it a whole lot easier.

That's true. The more you act sure of yourself the less you seem like a target. I know this from experience, too. It won't get rid of all of it, but people don't like to mess with confident people as much as they like to mess with insecure people. It's because a confident person might hurt them back, while an insecure person will just take it.

Not that you are a bad person or you being picked on is your fault, but this can help.

[iiPod]

Okay. Different things work for different people at different times against different people. For me, this has worked.

[Root Admin]

Apr 3, 2009 6:12:46 GMT @damselindistress said:

Apr 2, 2009 16:00:09 GMT Eilidh said:

Hmm, I'm not going for the whole "head down" thing. Seven times out of ten a bully will ignore you if you walk past with your head held high and acting as if you have every right to be there. Because you do. Also, stand your ground. Don't let yourself be trodden into the ground by people who aren't worth their weight in Skittles, let them know that you don't give two clicks what they think. I've been in this situation, and to a certain extent I still am, but I think that being confident has made it a whole lot easier.

That's true. The more you act sure of yourself the less you seem like a target. I know this from experience, too. It won't get rid of all of it, but people don't like to mess with confident people as much as they like to mess with insecure people. It's because a confident person might hurt them back, while an insecure person will just take it.

Not that you are a bad person or you being picked on is your fault, but this can help.

Yes. I definitely agree with you two. Someone is a lot less likely to target someone who is confident in themselves than someone who is insecure and will give them the kind of reaction they want.

[Eilidh]

xD Still working on that one Tom. I tend to surround myself with whatever friends I can find and look as if if they I'll pull their testicles off.

[horsegalxxx]

I know how it feels...sometimes when you feel bad it feels like everyone hates you...dont worry you probably just feel like that when you are depressed. YOu should just remember about the friends that you do have and not about the people who dislike you at this moment in time.
It could also be the case that you have had an argument with a 'popular' which has made you very unpopular...if this is the case you should try to make up with the person...

[Anonymous]

I was buliead for 1 and a half years it was shit but you must tell someone

[lbb]

Don't worry , god that person above is similar to me

[Twinklepins]

For me, I was bullied through all of primary school, but at high school I tend to hide within a large group of friends, and I act more confident than I am. This means almost no-one dares insult me, it's great

[TomBeasley]

Strength in numbers!

[Twinklepins]

Strength in numbers, indeed! Plus, the fact that I stayed being myself means I'm almost universally respected by my year group

[TomBeasley]

Well I think people respect me for not bowing to pressure and staying as who I am, but people do a damn good job of not showing it.