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Post by Root Admin on Nov 21, 2008 19:01:31 GMT
I received this and I am posting it anonymously for them at their request.
Now, it's not like child neglect in a case where parents are horrible and they refuse to feed a child and beat them etc. That's stereotypical neglect. This neglect goes deeper, and more emotional then that.
This is about being the only behaved boy in the family and being the one that seems to be treated the worse. It's like, a lad in the family steals stuff and he makes havoc and makes the family miserable, yet he seems to get away with it. He's still living under the same roof at the age of 18 and he still gets away with stuff. Another lad in the family seems to be becoming like him, and he is getting away with everything too. The more these two do, the more attention they seem to get, leaving me in the middle. I'm fed up of being neglected because of these two, it's like all their time and patience is consumed by these two lads and I'm stuck in the middle trying to get a word in and trying to be part of the family but being kicked back down.
It's horrible how being the behaved one, you'd think you'd be treated better, you think that being a lad that doesn't ask for a lot, just for a place to work and a place for some quiet to get stuff done, would get something small if he asked for it. Yet if I do something minorly wrong I get punished for it, whereas the other two would get away with it.
It is silly how such things take place, and how it's unfair on the people that actually give a rats ass about their lives and other people. It's stupid how that, if you were treated well for doing what's right then you'd do what's right, but those that are doing right are being pulled down by the effects of the people doing wrong. What I'm seeing doesn't seem like a lot, but it all adds up in the end
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Post by cooldude93 on Dec 2, 2008 22:56:34 GMT
I know exactly what you are talking about! I have a brother who starts fights in school and gets phone-calls home and nothing is done yet I get a B in an exam and it's like I have committed murder! All I want is to get on maybe a little help from time to time but most of the time I get a hard time and an earful because I'm not the perfect child like my brother who clearly isn't! Unfair  |
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 3, 2008 16:00:22 GMT
Guess that is unfair =/
I had a talk to Mr Hunter about it tbh
He agree's that because some children are basically always naughty, it's basically expected from them so they don't get into trouble. Where as if one of us got in trouble, we'd have to be put back in line. I guess it's because we are easy targets like, because we do what we can and we get on. This makes us vulnerable to being shouted at etc because we arn't much to retaliate =/
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Post by cooldude93 on Dec 3, 2008 16:21:10 GMT
Yeah but also if everyone else gets into trouble and they retaliate, it's a issue which "could have been out of the blue" which is a lie because they argue back everytime whereas if one of us was to retaliate it's a serious matter and it needs to be dealt with because our attitude is clearly changing even thoug we could just be having an off day.
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 3, 2008 19:26:21 GMT
Yes, your absolutely right.
Kid's like us, who do our work and get on with things should be rewarded not assaulted.
Now am I right in saying that if a smart child like us that does well is treated in such way, it makes it so we don't want to do well in school anymore?
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Post by cooldude93 on Dec 3, 2008 19:27:11 GMT
Yes you are right in saying that because why work to the best of our ability when we can just mess around, scrape through our exams and get less hassle in doing so.
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 3, 2008 19:31:53 GMT
That is how it seems, and now I guess we wait for Tom or someone to come along and tell us that we are wrong and explain the situation and tell us why it's like that.
Bullocks to that.
I don't see why I have to do my best when I don't get rewarded for it.
People can call me ungrateful, but it's sense in my opinion.
Being rewarded for something you've done well will make you want to keep doing well.
Getting nothing for something you've done well will just degrade you to do bad because you see no point anymore. It's all in the attitude.
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Post by cooldude93 on Dec 3, 2008 19:38:33 GMT
So right
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 3, 2008 19:41:05 GMT
Nice mastering of the quotations
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Post by Root Admin on Dec 4, 2008 16:58:14 GMT
This topic of rewards and sanctions in schools is something that I think about quite a lot.
I totally agree with everything that has been said and that those who always do well in school get very little reward and the only motivation to keep them doing this is the fact that they will get good grades out of it at the end.
The not-so-clever kids get praise heaped on them when they do even the slightest thing well because they aren't sensible enough to receive their motivation from grades, not being able to look that far into the future. They need praise from teachers to keep them working this hard.
Yes, it may be unfair, but there is very little we can do to change it at the end of the day. All we can do is keep remembering that we will always do better than they will when all is said and done.
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Post by Evil Inclination on Dec 4, 2008 21:20:08 GMT
Life's unfair. I actually enjoy not having attention, I love slipping through the cracks and falling under the radar. In fact, now that my sister has gone away for 3 weeks and I'm the only one here, I'm hating all this attention that I'm getting, I really just want to be left alone. But I understand how you guys feel, you can try making the best of it.  |
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Post by whiteshadow on Dec 7, 2008 11:25:12 GMT
I know what your saying EI, being alone sometimes is fantastic. Sometimes I just want to be left alone to do my work without any noise or hastle, but I don't get that. I guess, when you want the attention and praise that you've done well, you never get it. When you want to be left alone, all the attention is stockpiled on you and it's rather annoying.
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Post by Evil Inclination on Dec 10, 2008 9:37:35 GMT
I agree with you there. ^_^ When you want the attention, you rarely get it, but when you want to be left alone, they're throwing attention at you.  |
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Post by iDesign on Dec 17, 2008 17:58:59 GMT
I have the same problem.
My brother isn't little mr perfect, and he makes a fuss over nothing. It annoys me when he sits there, eleven years old, in a strop, refusing to do homework, and I'm just expected to do it.
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Post by Root Admin on Dec 18, 2008 18:29:43 GMT
I have the same problem. My brother isn't little mr perfect, and he makes a fuss over nothing. It annoys me when he sits there, eleven years old, in a strop, refusing to do homework, and I'm just expected to do it. My brother is in Year 7. He moans about having "loads of homework" when he has a tiny fraction of the workload I have. When he gets to GCSEs, I will sit and laugh. |
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Post by iDesign on Dec 18, 2008 18:51:20 GMT
Same here.
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Post by whiteshadow on Feb 28, 2009 11:14:08 GMT
Tom your an evil person for laughing at your brother when he gets to GCSE =P
But I'd laugh LOADS at my brother because apparently he's being kicked out of Woodlansd xD
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Post by Root Admin on Feb 28, 2009 14:37:32 GMT
Tom your an evil person for laughing at your brother when he gets to GCSE =P But I'd laugh LOADS at my brother because apparently he's being kicked out of Woodlansd xD He takes the piss out of me, so I'll take it back. Why is he being kicked out? |
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Post by kentkryptonite on Aug 15, 2012 6:15:30 GMT
My kid wasn't doing well in studies. I was worried but didn't make any remark. He was tilting head to get a clearer image most of the time. When I took him to eye doctor we found out that he has Astigmatism. I am glad I didn't neglect my baby. I think he's contact lenses help him to do well in school now.
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